摘要:来源：dailymail.co.uk作者：SOPHIE INGE翻译：家长大学如何在繁忙的工作和父母角色间找到平衡，是困扰许多职场妈妈的难题，也令职场爸爸们倍感烦恼。It’s not just busy working mothers who can find it hard to ... ...
来源：dailymail.co.uk
作者：SOPHIE INGE
翻译：家长大学
如何在繁忙的工作和父母角色间找到平衡，是困扰许多职场妈妈的难题，也令职场爸爸们倍感烦恼。
It’s not just busy working mothers who can find it hard to juggle parenthood with a busy career - fathers also need to create a work/life balance.
不管爸爸的工作有多忙，都需要花时间陪伴家人，不仅是为了孩子和自己，也为了更好的投入工作。
No matter how hard a man works, he needs to make time for his family, for the sake of himself, his children and even his boss.
专家指出好好地陪伴家人和孩子，并不意味着要缩减工作时间。
According to executive well being coach Christopher Harvey, engaging properly with your family doesn’t necessarily mean cutting your working hours.
He adds that building a better relationship with your children could actually be beneficially to your job as if you’re not feeling low-level anxiety about being a poor dad, you’re likely to be a better worker.
Try keeping to a fixed time each day to Skype with the kids at home. Just that simple contact will help you bond with them and reassure you that all’s well.
并且你接下来的工作效率会更高，所以不要担心占用这5-10分钟的工作时间。
It will also make your subsequent work more effective- so don’t worry about losing five or 10 minutes of work time.
孩子能和爸爸聊会儿天，公司能得到高质量的工作输出，对你的健康也有积极的连锁反应，可谓一举多得。
Your children get to speak to you, your employer gets more quality work and there are huge knock-on effects for your own wellbeing. So everybody wins.
Learn how to make good use of social media so you can keep up with your kids. A family Whatsapp group is a good idea – ensuring that you’ll always know the family ‘in’ jokes, see their latest photos and be able to engage in chit-chat.
Too busy? Not at all - the time it takes will be more than made up for by increased productivity. A less anxious dad is a more effective worker.
03. 不要总唱红脸
DON'T BE THE BULLY
不要做那个总在训斥别人的人。如果你父亲就是这样一个人，那么成为家庭纪律的维护者会让你倍感焦虑。
Don’t be the one who always does the reprimanding. Taking on the role of family disciplinarian may cause you anxiety, particularly if your own father was one.
Discuss this with your partner – and make it clear you don’t want to be the one who always tells the kids off, particularly if you’re only with them a few minutes a day.
04. 为家庭活动预留时间
MAKE TIME FOR FAMILY EVENTS
你不可避免地要参加一些家庭活动，比如运动会或学校的戏剧表演。
There’s no getting round this: you need to go to some family events – like sports days and school plays.
提前规划好你在一个月或一个季度里参与家庭活动的次数，并坚决执行下去。
Decide in advance the number of times you’ll be doing this a month or a quarter, then make the events unbreakable fixtures in your diary.
If you’re working at home, make sure you have a defined space for this. If you really have to work on the kitchen table, it’s useful to have a sign that you’re not to be disturbed – like, say, a red flag.
当你知道不会有人打扰，你可以专心工作时，就能让工作效率更高。
If you know no-one will distract you, you won’t be anxious about being interrupted and you’ll work better.
It’s also important to tell the kids what time you will stop working, and then to stick to your promise, even if you have to return to work later. This avoids potential frustration and anxiety.
Another tip: during your short time with the children each evening, try to find things you can genuinely praise them for. This does wonders for a child’s wellbeing.
If you’re a divorced father, living away from the family home, don’t buy the kids extravagant gifts. They’re no substitute for time with Dad, they may make your ex angry and your children may feel bought.
Always value time with them over consumer goods. Your child’s birthday is only once a year, so make sure you celebrate it with him or her and share an experience that creates memories.
Referring to your ex as ‘him’ or ‘her’ after a row or divorce increases tension and anxiety for your children. Make sure you always keep references to your ex as positive as possible – ie: ‘your mum.
If you’ve remarried, your children may not be keen to meet your current partner’s own children. Don’t keep insisting that they’ll all like each other and have great fun – that’s unlikely to work.
It’s much better to find an activity you think they would all enjoy – like going to an outward bound centre, if they’re sporty. However, you don’t want them competing in a game that ends up with a winner and a loser.
